The Warm Milk Journal

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Write three letters: of appreciation, apologizing, and forgiveness

If you are up late and can not sleep, here is something that you can do that will improve the quality of the relationships in your life.

I started this practice one year at Yom Kippur time which is a Jewish Holiday in the Fall during the high holy days. Yom Kippur is called the day of atonement. It is a day that we are supposed to fast and reflect on the past year. If there is anyone that you feel you need to apologize to or forgive, now is the time to do it.

We don’t need to be Jewish or have a special holiday to do this. First, think of someone you think you have wronged and write a sincere letter of apology to them. Second, think of somone in your life whom perhaps you feel you have taken for granted and write a letter of appreciation to that person. Third, think of someone who you think has wronged you and write a letter of forgiveness to that person.

There. Three letters. Whether you send them or not is up to you. They could be in the form of an email but there is something satisfying about writing the old fashioned way by hand. If you are courageous enough to send them know that wonderful things will come back to you. Give it a try. This is one practice you won’t regret.


April 6, 2010 - Posted by | Spirituality | , , , , , , ,


  1. Debra I am happy to know about your site. I will refer my friends to come here and read the articles.
    Compassion does it all.Forgive self and forgive others and live a happy peaceful life.

    Comment by drstahir | April 7, 2010 | Reply

    • Thank you, Dr. Tahir. Yes, forgiveness is so incredibly healing. I am very much enjoying the articles on your site as well. Have a beautiful and blessed day.


      Comment by debratech | April 7, 2010 | Reply

  2. Hey, great blog…I haven’t figured out how to add your site in my rss reader but I will soon 🙂

    Comment by Concetta Judah | April 26, 2010 | Reply

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